Can two people sleep in a bed, but only one get bitten by bed bugs?

Yes. Two people can sleep in the same bed and only one seem to get bitten by bed bugs. Sometimes the bugs feed unevenly, and sometimes one person reacts while the other shows little or no visible bite reaction. Worried’s story below shows how confusing that can be.

Two people sleeping in same bed but only one bitten by bed bugs.

Two people sleeping in same bed but only one bitten by bed bugs. The woman is being bitten but he thinks she is going crazy.

The middle of January I woke up to intense itching on my back so I asked my husband to scratch it for me, which he did! So I asked him was anything there and he told it was 3 bumps. Still I paid it no mind, my daughter came in my room and I asked her to look at my back because it still was itching and she did! Yet she said something different then her father, she said “it look like something bit you, and they tore you up!” I told her maybe it was my bra because it seemed that it had been poking me in that exact spot. She insisted that it looked like angry bites.

8 days later I had 2 on my leg and 1 on my finger. They weren’t together. Still I didn’t know what to think.The end of January I woke up with 1 on my toe and it was then that I thought something was going on. That was my first time getting on the net reading about bedbugs.

Now I have been bitten by bedbugs before over a friends house when I was 11 they tore me up. I slept wit my clothes on and when I tell you they hadn’t left a single part of my uncovered skin unbitten except my face I won’t be telling a lie put it like that. Still I remember details, that when I told the people whose house it was that I was bitten; they looked at me as if I was lying! Then the other kid who was a guest and shared the bed with me, said “nothing bite me.” I felt bad and I told my mom when I got home who confirmed that yes it was bedbugs bites.

I disregarded the bed bugs because I hadn’t been bitten like I was as a child. The pictures that I did take a look @ seem to be the same pattern as the ones I had when I was a child. It was til the middle of February I woke up with another bite on my finger that I flipped out came back on the internet and really started to consider the option of bedbugs because it became clear to me that something might be feeding off of me.

I told my husband and daughter it could be bedbugs but my husband said he would of been bit too. Which made sense before because he doesn’t have sensitive skin that breaks out very easily. Still I began to ask Google specific questions one of which was: can two people share the same bed and only 1 person be bitten by bedbugs!” To my surprise it was plenty of stories that said HECK YEAH!

With This evidence I was able to convince my husband to do a search. He explained that he to knew what bed bugs look like and the same information I read online he told me the something. He got his handy flashlight and searched the seems of the mattress. Check the opposite side of it, checked the box spring lift it up and checked the bottom of i said he was looking for blood smears, eggs, cast off! We found nothing! We checked the baseboard on my side of the bed, nothing!

At this time I decided to remove the dust ruffle from the box spring and everything was ok… until 12 days later when I awoke to 2 painful new bites @2:23 in the morning. I was laying next to my charging cell phone. These bites burned so bad it woke me up and I had only been sleep for a hour. I believe it just happened! My arm swelled up so bad that it looked as if it was pregnant! I couldn’t stop rubbing it or itching it. When I did fall asleep after our second inspection it burned like fire in my sleep. It actually felt warm/hot to the touch.

Our second inspection turned up nothing and this time I had my husband removed that thin cloth part on the box spring and look in. It was as clean as a whistle. I also had him check the sofa and open the cloth underneath that. Still he found nothing. Not to mention we have 3 dogs and a daughter who has never been bitten.

I started cleaning with alcohol and bleach every night and not sleeping-til the morning. Tomorrow will make two weeks that I haven’t been bit. My 3 dogs r constantly under furniture and never act as if they seen any bugs or was ever bit. I’m worried but don’t know what to think. We’ve been living in this apartment for 5 years. All This furniture was new i haven’t entertained any guests since my mother died. Can this be bed bugs or am I crazy? I need help, I’m so sleepy!

Answer: Yes, two people can be sleeping in the same bed and only one receive the bites, or, one has a reaction while the other does not which gives the appearance of no bites. There are many testimonials where couples describe the same problem, found nothing for a long time, then discovered they had bed bugs.

The key here is finding them, best thing you can do is buy a mattress encasement, use climb up blockers or make your own (see our bed bug dust page for a picture and instructions). Also, set up a bed bug trap using dry ice or Alka-Seltzer and see what you catch, it might not be bed bugs at all.

If you do confirm bed bugs, our guide on how to get rid of bed bugs walks through the next steps.

If this sounds like your situation, compare your symptoms with our bed bug bites guide, use our bed bug inspection checklist, and move to how to get rid of bed bugs if the signs keep pointing back to the bed.

Reader stories: when only one person gets bitten

Since this page first went up, hundreds of readers have written in about the same maddening thing: one person eaten alive while the person next to them sleeps untouched. Here are the stories worth your time, signed the way readers signed them. They back up the science better than any lab study could.

Rhonda

“It is possible for two people to be in the same bed and one not show bites. However, they are getting bit. Some people do not have a reaction to the bed bug’s bite and others have what you would call an allergic reaction. I was waking up covered in red itchy bumps every morning. My husband and 3 boys didn’t have any marks. One night I couldn’t sleep, so I was just lying in bed playing on my phone and I see something crawling across my stomach. … The next day we look at the bed that my son was on and find bed bugs. He has been sleeping there for months and not a single mark. They must have migrated over towards me, and I swell up like a balloon for each bite. My mom came downstairs and she got bit, but my dad didn’t show any reaction as well. This causes a problem in some houses because some people may have them and not even know it until they are really infested.”

Exhausted

“My daughter and I are the only ones that get bit every night. The other night my husband was sleeping and I saw one by his leg. But it wouldn’t climb up on it. Instead it went all around to get to my side of the bed. The next one I saw, I tried something. I literally put it on his leg to see if it would bite him. I know how that sounds, but I needed to see for myself why he doesn’t have any bites in the morning. All that it did was run down off it and try to go to my side.”

Chris

“My wife gets bit, however I do not. We have been studying these nasty bugs since we discovered them. While observing many different times, we have watched them crawl right past me to get onto her. They bypass me altogether. It’s fact.”

Chris went on to describe the homemade CO2 trap he caught them with. We keep a full guide on our bed bug trap page.

Tipsy

“Bed bug bites can show up a long time after you were bitten. Mine showed up almost 2 weeks after. So you may think you got bitten last night, when it was really many days ago. My wife and I stayed at a hotel in San Diego for one night. Woke up in the morning and found a bed bug in our bed. … Everything was fine until almost 2 weeks later, when I had bites all over my stomach and legs. Itched like hell. She had none. Now, 3 years later we’ve had no bites. So I can only assume that I was bitten in the hotel and the bites took a long time to show up.”

Sadie

“I’m neurotic when it comes to cleaning my apartment. It began with bites to my lower extremities and progressed upwards. I thought it was mosquitoes. A month ago, I began sleeping in my winter pajamas. Woke up one morning and the whole left side of my face was covered with bites, including my eye area. Bed bugs were the last thing on my mind until I did my bi-yearly mattress flip. I found 5 large round red bugs on my mattress. … I am the only one in the apartment being bitten. Both my man and my daughter have slept with me and nothing has happened to them.”

Debbi

“Watch out for apartments that furnish beds. The landlord told me the bed was new. It wasn’t. It showed no signs of bed bugs around the sides and seams, but when you look into the stitching of the pillowtop, much can be seen with a magnifying glass. Turns out pillowtops are a perfect nesting spot for them. They get into the stitching of all those little circles that make up the quilting. An entire mattress can be infested and there will be no signs of bed bugs on the outer casing at all, but look into that pillowtop with a magnifier and you may find evidence of a long existing bed bug egg hatchery.”

Helpless in Kansas

“I woke up to some bites on my arm. They really did not itch, they kinda hurt. They were in a row of 3 and a few single ones, but they had a little clear water blister in the middle of them. We checked everything and never found nothing. I continued to get bit but my husband did not. … We decided to take the bed skirt off, and sure enough, at the head of the bed in the seams of the box spring, we found lots of bed bugs. When he squeezed a few they had a sweet almond smell to them. Then he went to my corner and they were all full of blood. So we took the box spring out and set it on fire. The next day my husband cleaned all day and went and bought a brand new box spring. We put the bedroom back together and I was so happy thinking this nightmare was over. Crawled into our warm bed after working a 14 hour day, and sure enough, the bites continue.”

Kansas learned the hard lesson. Replacing one piece of furniture almost never ends it. The eggs and stragglers are elsewhere in the room. Our how to get rid of bed bugs plan covers the whole room, not just the bed.

Drill Sargent Mom

“From the research I’ve done, they are in fact getting bit. It’s just they have no reaction, so it don’t cause their skin to get red or bump up or itch. When I finally seen one I was upset, but was happy at the fact now my husband will finally know I wasn’t going crazy. … The reason it is hard to kill bed bugs is because there is not a chemical that can kill their eggs. So when you treat, you are killing them, when all along they have eggs that will be hatching soon. So I treated every 4 to 5 days for 2 months. You have to try and catch them between the new eggs hatching, them mating and hatching again. I have been finally able to get a good night’s rest.”

Her main weapon was diatomaceous earth, the same bed bug dust we recommend, because it keeps working between those hatch cycles.

If you are the one getting bitten, you are the smoke alarm for your whole house. Don’t waste that early warning. Work through the bed bug inspection checklist tonight and find them while the problem is still small.